Sex With Emily

I'm answering Sex With Emily listener's relationship questions, with a few sex questions sprinkled in for good measure. In this show, Menace and I debate the male and female perspective on people's most common relationship issues. We tell you when to move on from an unhealthy relationship and when to stop licking your wounds in a bad breakup. We also teach how to have courage to change, and have better relationships. Sex with Emily listener's Relationship Questions: When should you let down your guard and commit to someone? How many times do you try to make a relationship work before calling it quits? How do I get over the girl I'm still in love with? What do you do when you and lover can't agree on places to meet? Is is worth it to wait to have sex? When is the right time to lose your virginity? How many dates should you go on before having sex with someone? Why do women like giving double blow jobs so much? (someone has been watching a lot of porn.) Why does eating certain things make semen taste differently? Girls like the chase, right? But when is it an exciting pursuit and when is it stalking? When should the guy give up ? When is his pursuit cute and when is it creepy ? When should he fear a restraining order? (FYI. Throwing rocks at her window in the middle of the night isn't cute, unless you're a character in a teenage Romantic Comedy.) What do I do if I queef? (Hint: Do not run away screaming or hide under a rock) Sex isn't neat and tidy. It's messy, just like relationships. You can't run away the second you start feeling vulnerable or exposed. On the other hand, you shouldn't stay in a relationship because you think you'll be lost without it. Great change requires some personal struggle. The key to relationships is finding the right person to let yourself be vulnerable with, and having the courage to leave when things no longer fit. Oh, and try not to stalk anyone. As much as women like the idea of "the chase," we usually make time for people we are interested in. If you want to change your love life check out: PromescentCrazy GirlMax4MenMasque, and Good Vibrations. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl and Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Or use coupon code Emily for 15% off anything at Good Vibrations.

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How does a porn star have sex when he's not on a porn set? Does he pump away for hours with his chiseled abs glistening with sweat? According to porn star Joey Ray, porn star sex isn't all it's cracked up to be. No one wants it to last that long, that hard. Porn focuses on performance, not pleasure. You might learn some fancy moves from porn, but you're not going to learn how to truly pleasure a woman. So, how do you please a woman? Ray is all about female pleasure. He talks about how to last the right amount of time during sex. Hint: It's about how long it takes her to orgasm. He also talks about how to find out what turns on different women. The same techniques don't work with every partner. You have to pay attention and really get to know her body, instead of obsessing about your own performance. The more you make sex about her, and the less you try to act like a porn star, the better the sex will be. The take home message: Have sex like a porn star, but only when they aren't having sex for the camera.

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I get tons of sex questions in my inbox everyday. Trust me, everyone has their sex issues, from orgasming too soon to not orgasming at all. And let's be honest, you don't want to ask all your Facebook friends how you can go about losing your virginity (unless you get some takers). That's why I'm here to answer your biggest, most embarrassing, sex questions on my podcast. Sex Questions Answered Does penis size really matter? Is a big penis too much of a good thing? How do I brave his gargantuan penis? How do I prevent premature ejaculation, without having to picture the most disgusting thing possible? Why can't I get an erection? I'm pretty sure my sex drive is higher than everyone else's sex drive, what should I do? I don't want to have sex. What's wrong with me? I have a strange fetish, do I embrace it or try to hide it? (Well, it really depends on the fetish.) What do I do if I queef? (Hint: Do not run away screaming or hide under a rock). If you want to change your love life check out: Promescent, Crazy Girl, Max4Men, Masque, and Good Vibrations. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl and Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Or use coupon code Emily for 15% off anything at Good Vibrations.

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Anal Sex Month is here and I'm celebrating with a bunch of anal sex tips. If you're new to anal pleasure, this show will help you get comfortable with the idea of having something up your bum. Don't worry, it's not that scary. It's actually quite pleasurable if done correctly. Relaxation, lubrication, and communication are the three most important elements of anal sex. Although anal sex might not be the most peaceful activity, it will go a lot smoother if you move slowly and do it with someone you trust. If you think about it, there's perhaps nothing more intimate than letting someone inside your behind. So, why are men so obsessed with anal sex? Is it because it's taboo? Because it's an act of dominance? Or is it just because it feels good and guys love butts? Speaking of butts, the male G-spot is the prostate. It's about time guys start exploring their own anal pleasure. I'll tell you how. I also answer people's emails about getting over an affair and moving on when someone just isn't interested. Then I help a woman find her G-spot so she can potentially have orgasms in more than one way.

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Let's talk about how to please a man in bed, because I'm always talking about how to give women orgasms. I know that making a man orgasm isn't exactly Rocket Science, but women could be a lot more creative with his penis. I interviewed the author of Tickle His Pickle, Sadie Allison, on how to please his pickle AKA his penis. Allison was the girl in her friend group that taught all her girlfriends how to have their first orgasm. Then she showed them the ropes on how to please a man in bed. Allison discusses all of her special techniques on the penis, including: the sausage wrap, the pleasure tunnel, the old faithful, the twister, and the cigar roller. Luckily, she's already tested all these techniques on men. You don't have to find a penis and start cigar rolling and twisting it without knowing what to expect. Of course there are different strokes for different folks. Every man has different preferences. How do you know if he wants you to nibble his pickle if you don't ask? Being confident in bed doesn't necessarily mean knowing exactly what to do with his penis, and it certainly doesn't mean having the perfect body. Having confidence means having the courage to ask him what he likes in bed, and having the confidence to stand before him naked with the lights on (even if you hate your thighs). He wouldn't try and get you naked if he didn't want to see your body. Men are visual creatures. They want to see you do your thing. Flaunt your new moves.

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Are you spanking, hair pulling, and nibbling your partner as much as you want? Or are you playing it safe, scared to reveal your true desires? Well, they probably don’t want to do it in the missionary position every single time either. Get some balls and talk to your partner about your sex life. Instead of proclaiming, “you don’t slap my butt enough” over tea and crumpets, have a casual conversation about sex. Calm down, take a deep breath, and share your desires with your partner. I’ll tell you exactly what to say if you want to have more adventurous sex with your lover(s). You’ll be spanking, hair pulling, and biting in no time. Also… You wish you went bowling with a bunch of porn stars Anthony Weiner needs to at least get his premature ejaculation under control (Promescent, anyone?) How to have rough sex without getting too rough (you want it to be sexy, not painful) How to talk about your fantasies with your partner without having the most awkward conversation of your life The point of this podcast is to step outside your comfort zone and start having the sex you and your partner really want. Have courage, stop worrying about every move you make in bed, and enjoy your sex life. You deserve it. If you want to change your love life check out: Promescent, Crazy Girl, Max4Men, Masque, Good Vibrations, and Adam and Eve. Use coupon code Emily for 50% off anything at Adam and Eve + free shipping + 3 free DVDs + a free sexy gift. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl and Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations

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I interviewed sex coaches Celeste and Danielle on how to have multiple orgasms. Because seriously who doesn't want to have multiple orgasms? If you want to give and receive multiple orgasms you have to work on your moves and your mental state. You can’t have one without the other, unless you’re one of those lucky women who orgasm while riding a bicycle. Many sexual problems stem from not telling your partner what you want. Sometimes you want to be cuddly and cute and other times you want to be tied up and spanked. Be blunt and communicate your desires. If you’re not sure how to say, “honey I want you to bend me over the kitchen table,” this podcast will help. Celeste and Danielle also talk about what it means to be a sexual person. Does it mean you have to think about sex all the time? Or you're more sexually open than other people? Most everyone is a sexual person. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re too sexual or not sexual enough. This podcast will help you unlearn social stigmas about sex and teach you how to be more honest about your desires. Also: Is it wrong to fantasize about someone else during sex? How do you seduce a woman? No, it does not necessarily involve lighting candles and soft music. How to throw a woman against a wall (in a sexy, not painful way.) How to get connected with your own desire And ten of my favorite sex tips. If you want to change your love life, check out: Promescent, Crazy Girl, Max4Men, Masque, Good Vibrations, and Adam and Eve. Use coupon code Emily for 50% off anything at Adam and Eve + free shipping + 3 free DVDs + a free sexy gift. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl and Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations.

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Signs you need to spice up your sex life: Your idea of a great night is watching TV and then doing it in missionary position, you haven’t had oral sex since your birthday, you don’t remember the last time you had sex, and you’re pretty sure the best sex of your life happened a long, long time ago. Well, don't despair, sex can get better over time. You can reignite the spark in your relationship if you’re proactive about your sex life. Your relationship isn’t going to magically transform overnight. You’re not going to suddenly do it in a public restroom (unless you schedule it on your Google Calendar.) Emily tells you everything you need to do to have more exciting sex, more often. Get a box delivered every month from Spicy Subscriptions with fun sex toys and goodies to spice up your sex life. Or go skydiving with your partner to get your adrenaline up. Okay maybe you don't have to jump out of a plane, but at least go to the gym with your partner. Emily also shares the best sex position for the female orgasm. Hint: She's not going to be suspended in the air in a pretzel. Plus, what can men do to prevent premature ejaculation? No guy wants to be compared to Anthony Weiner right now. If you want to reignite the spark in your relationship, use coupon code "Emily" at checkout to receive a Free Deluxe Toy and 5% off your order at Spicy Subscriptions. Try out a 4 or 8 month subscription, which I highly recommend, you’ll get a Free Deluxe Toy + your first Spice Box for free. Spicy Subscriptions will make reigniting the spark in your relationship so much easier.

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A show on foreplay tips and getting married. Because nothing says commitment more than waiting a whole half hour before trying to take their clothes off. Emily interviews Alex Wellen, the author of LoveSick. Alex addresses the question, why don’t men want to tie the knot? Is it the daunting divorce rates or are they just scared of commitment? Emily and Alex discuss whether monogamy is even compatible with human nature. Do we really just want to get it on with everyone? People call into the show and ask Emily and Alex questions about marriage and sex. When are you really ready to settle down? What is up with America’s obsession with getting married and then getting divorced? How do you know if you’re single or in a relationship for the right reasons? Is your relationship doomed if you do it on the first date? Emily gives foreplay tips to improve your sex life. Even if you want to get right to the sex, women need foreplay. Your chances of sleeping with her again will increase dramatically if you play by our rules. Emily talks about how to pleasure every inch of his or her body, from their ankles to their earlobes. Also, is anyone up for naked twister? Emily talks about fun sex games you can play to spice up your love life. Maybe they’ll finally play Monopoly with you if you promise them oral sex afterwards. Special Offer for Sex with Emily: Foreplay Tips Listeners If you want to change your love life, check out my good friends: Crazy Girl, Max4Men, Masque, Good Vibrations, and Adam and Eve. Use coupon code Emily for 50% off anything at Adam and Eve + free shipping + 3 free DVDs + a free sexy gift. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl and Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations

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Emily gets up close and personal with The Vagina Lady. What’s the Vagina Lady's mission? To help women overcome any shame they experience for having a vagina. Women are extremely self-conscious about their, um, lady parts. They're so ashamed they don't even want to say the word vagina! But vaginas are awesome for so many reasons. I mean, they have about twice as many nerve endings as the penis. So the next time you feel like vaginas are the inferior genitals, just think about that! This podcast is important to listen to no matter if you have a vagina or not. Many men feed into women's insecurities by making them feel like they don't measure up. Women get Labiaplasty to fit a certain standard of beauty perpetuated by porn. But every woman's vagina is different and fine just the way it is. But if you do want to improve your vagina, do your Kegels! Emily and the Vagina Lady walk you through how to do your Kegel Exercises to feel tighter and healthier down their. Men can also do their Kegels to last longer during sex! Emily also asks the Vagina Lady, "If a man could ask a vagina a question, what would it be?. Also, "if a woman could ask her vagina a question what would it be"? All your vagina questions answered in the podcast! Listen up and love your junk. Special Offer for Sex with Emily: The Vagina Lady Listeners If you want to change your love life, check out my good friends: Crazy Girl, Max4men, Masque, and Good Vibrations, and Adam and Eve. Use coupon code Emily for 50% off anything at Adam and Eve + free shipping + 3 free DVDs + a free sexy gift. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl or Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Enjoy, The Vagina Lady!

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